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Foreplay is all about the psychological stimulation between two people to create sexual arousal. Most people assume that foreplay is only used to get women excited and ready for sex, but foreplay is just as important to men. Without foreplay, men are not at their sexual arousal peak and their orgasm won’t be as strong. If you can get him so ready and excited for sex or pleasure that every tiny hair on his body stands up , then you have done foreplay correctly and to the fullest. There are many different things that you can do to get your man excited for sex. You can either combine these ideas or use them on their own to get your man all hot and heavy for you. The more anticipation you create, the better sex will be - hands down. The more you crave something and the more you want it, the more animalistic you become when you get it. If the anticipation for sex becomes totally out of this world, then when he finally enters you, the sparks will fly and you will be in store for one of the...

Before you can truly please your man and give him satisfaction that he is going to remember for a long time to come, you first of all need to understand his thought process and how it works. Pleasing a man is about more than just physical stimulation. Of course, the focus for men is on physical stimulation, but if you really want to please him to his core and truly make an everlasting impression on him , you need to understand how his mind works. The male brain works in a much different way than the female brain. Rather than being intricate and complex, the male brain is simple yet efficient. Men use pictures to associate an emotion or arousal, rather than words. This is the main reason why there are so many magazines catered to men. Men like to look at things to get arousal, rather than read. Women are more turned on by reading something, such as a romance novel. Women are able to turn these words into something visual in their minds and they then use that to become aroused. Some men ...

In order to truly please a man, we have to start with YOU. You may think that focusing on you has nothing to do with sex, oral sex, fondling, dirty talk, or passionate kissing but it absolutely does. In fact, it is paramount. Your sexual confidence has a lot to do with how you do all of these things to and with your partner. Without sexual confidence, you won’t be able to truly please your man and you will never feel pleasure yourself. You have to work on you before you can work on him . Sexual confidence in one’s self is the number one problem that women have when it comes to sexual activities with their partner. When you are worrying about your body, your hair, that blemish on your face and various other issues going on in your life, your focus is not where it should be and that focus should be on him. He can tell when you are thinking about something else. He can detect when you are distracted. He knows when something is on your mind and he can especially tell when you two are makin...

Well, you definitely don't have/want to tell them that they are horrible in bed. If I were in your position, I would just ask if it's okay if I shared some of the things that really do it for me, then propose that we spend a while in bed, playfully exploring and practicing those things during the weekend/a day off.  Take a playful approach to it. Don't put too much pressure on them to get it right straight away, give them plenty of feedback and guidance, keep the mood light, etc. The are  probably not going to be upset about spending a day in bed exploring your body and learning how to really get you there if they really love you and care about whether or not you are enjoying yourself. On the flip side, you need to show just as much willingness and interest in what they would like you to do for them in bed. Like I said, take a day to do some playful exploration of each other's bodies and communicate to each other what is working and what needs to be worked on, and don...

While there is an encyclopedia of knowledge through each guide on how to perfect your sexual moves to your man, you may be wondering what the best technique is? The number one sex technique is actually an attitude. It’s… Enthusiasm Enthusiasm is by far the most powerful thing you can incorporate into your sex skills AND sex life . Think about it this for a minute… Have you ever been merely going through the motions with a guy, where he seemed almost uninterested and unenthusiastic about getting it on? It’s a real turn off and can make you feel very unsexy. On the other hand, have you ever been with a guy who can’t keep his hands off you , who looks at you like a lion eyeing his prey and when you do get intimate with him, he kisses you with intense passion and makes love to you with his entire being. It’s like he’s possessed and all he can think of is…you. It’s incredibly arousing. He’s acting with complete enthusiasm and focus on you. This is the power of enthusiasm. When you give you...

Something many people don’t consider is the right sex position. When you have a big dick or a a small dick to work with some positions can feel a little uncomfortable and some can dramatically increase your satisfaction levels. This is what works for me: When he has a big dick: Missionary with your hands wrapped around the base of his cock allows you to be in control of when you have had enough, spooning also feels great and allows him to get deep a lot easier. Another position that a lot of size queens love is you on top, leaning forward slightly, it gives you more control and allows you to take length a lot easier. Laying flat on your front also feels good, I like to avoid doggy-style and putting my legs around his shoulders in missionary and this can cause discomfort with a bigger dick. Using lube is a MUST. You will face the wrath of your ancestors if you skip it because you think you will be fine without it and that just isn’t true. I always use lube, no matter what, it mak...

  Avoidance and anticipatory anxiety with sex can occur when there is not a recurring rhythm for sexual intimacy , which can also lead to difficulties communicating when a change is needed.  Rituals or routines for frequency, initiation/declining sex, and participating in non-demand, non-sexual touch throughout the week can reduce the anticipatory anxiety that hinders communication and intimacy.  Some examples of a ritual or routine include a fridge magnet that can be turned upside down when interested in sex or lighting a “sex candle,” which allows your partner to gently accept or decline.  Sex doesn’t necessarily need to be “scheduled,” i.e. every Tuesday and Saturday at 7 pm, but can occur on a routine where intimacy is anticipated and welcomed. In case of there being issues, you then need to use  ARC Statements -  i.e Acknowledge  Report Collaborate ARC Statements can be an incredibly important tool for effective communication. They allow the spea...

It’s extremely difficult to let go of a great sex partner, even if you know they are not right for you in many other ways. Most of us have experienced at one time or another being involved with someone who was absolutely incredible in bed, but we had sense enough to move on for various other reasons. Unfortunately, the memories of being with them linger in our minds and haunt us from time to time. For whatever reason, you may not end up in a happily ever after fairytale with the person you are presently seeing, but you can live on forever in their minds. A great lover is impossible to forget. So, how do you become unforgettable? The willingness to Learn! Whether you are a woman or a man, the only way to become good or great at anything is to have the intention of being so. In the long run, no one is great at anything by accident. It all starts with having the desire and the willingness to put in the effort. Naturally, with each new relationship one becomes involved in, the first few s...

It also goes without saying, but we’ll say it over and over again, that while it’s totally normal to be curious about what guys want in bed , it’s equally important to be curious about what works for you , and to be able to communicate that with your partner. The best way to figure out what that is, exactly, is by experimenting with different types of touch , sex toys, erotica, and more. Advocating for yourself in the bedroom is the best way to make sure your desires are met, too. Remember: Your pleasure matters just as much as your partner’s does, and your needs are just as important. Open Communication Don’t be afraid to show them (literally, with your hands) how you like it. Move his hands, position your body, and use verbal and nonverbal communication to ensure a good time for you both This goes both ways, because ideally, he'd express his desires to you, too. But a partner who can explain exactly how they want to be touched is endlessly sexy and could create an open lane of co...

This is frustrating. Not your situation, mine. Because now I have to write the phrase that will destroy the thesis of many people online who desperately want to believe that I am - to use their whimsical turn of phrase - “an irrational man-hating feminazi.” And I truly hate to disappoint. But I must. So here we go: This isn’t men’s fault. Like many people who have sex with men, you have discovered the odd little quirk in men’s physicality which can cause them to physically power-down after sex, leaving many a disgruntled partner fuming beside a man now happily snoring in post-orgasmic bliss - or as in your case, a man now happily awake but sexually disinterested in post-orgasmic bliss. Following orgasm, men experience a refractory period, which is the recovery phase during which it is physically impossible for a man to have additional orgasms. During this time, the penis may be sensitive and further sexual stimulation may actually be painful, which is why men shouldn’t keep trying to h...

One thing for sure is that without intimacy of some kind sooner or later your relationship will start having issues. But, maybe the fact that you are aware of your partner's limitations it could be your turn to direct your sex lives into the right direction. But to get started, these guidelines may help you: 1) Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning). 2) Once you have their full attention, present the facts as clearly and non-judgmentally as you can (“We haven’t had sex when I am horny, despite the few times I’ve tried to initiate it,”. Some people might be very aware of their behavior, but others might not. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt and see how they respond before assuming they’ve been aware of their behavior and indifferent to the damage it has caused. 3) State the emotional impact their rejections have on you using "I statements" (“It make...

Initiate the session to request your needs Texting can feel a bit safer and it lets you be yourself. You can text whatever comes to your mind, even if you might hesitate before saying it out loud. And don't be above using it to initiate sex. You could tell him " I could use a pussy massage tonight ." The time has come, what do you actually say to make him understand you want him to give you oral sex? This takes us to the next step; On requesting the oral sex Try a more playful approach and tell him that you want to play a game where his challenge is to get you as wet and aroused as possible. The rules: He has immediate access to every inch of your bod, but may use only his hands and mouth to touch you. Encourage him to linger at your favorite hot spots by being vocal when he's rubbing you the right way.  Once he sees the results of his efforts (a horny-as-hell girlfriend),  in future he would be the one to suggest frequently. On  being comfortable in your own skin ...

If you’ve ever wondered whether your bedroom sessions are “long enough,” you’re not alone. Duration is one of the most common silent anxieties in relationships. The good news? We have data—and it tells a clearer story than myths or locker-room talk ever could. What Women Say Is Ideal In a large survey of 4,000 sexually active adults aged 18 to 35 , participants were asked two simple questions: How long does sex usually last? How long would you ideally like it to last? Women reported that their ideal duration for intercourse was 25 minutes and 51 seconds. That timeframe, according to respondents, felt long enough to create both emotional satisfaction and physical fulfillment. Interestingly, men’s ideal duration was almost identical: 25 minutes and 43 seconds. That alone should shift the narrative. Most men are not aiming for five-minute encounters, they want longer sessions too. What Actually Happens in Reality When women were asked how long sex typically lasts, many reported that pen...

Let’s start with the truth: there is no universal “correct” amount of sex a couple should be having. Anyone promising you a magic number is oversimplifying something deeply personal. That said, research does give us useful insight into patterns—and those patterns can help you understand where you stand and whether changes might benefit your relationship. Is There a “Normal” Frequency? According to leading sexual health organizations, the normal frequency of sex is simply the frequency that both partners agree works for them. For some couples, that means several times a week. For others, it may mean once a month. Satisfaction—not comparison—is the real benchmark. The problem is that many people don’t measure satisfaction. They measure themselves against what they think other couples are doing. That comparison is usually inaccurate. Unlock the full guide library: •   All 50 sex Guides (PDF & EPUB) here   •  Men’s 20 sex Guides here   •  Women’s 8 sex Guides he...

If your sex life has started to feel routine, or if penetration alone isn’t delivering the pleasure you expected, it’s time to understand a technique that actually aligns with how the female body works. Shallowing is a form of sexual stimulation that focuses on the entrance of the vagina rather than deep thrusting. Instead of full penetration, stimulation is kept at or just inside the vaginal opening using the tip of the penis, fingers, lips, tongue, or a sex toy. It can be practiced with a partner or explored solo. This isn’t a gimmick. It’s anatomy. Unlock the full guide library: •   All 50 sex Guides (PDF & EPUB) here   •  Men’s 20 sex Guides here   •  Women’s 8 sex Guides here   •  Free Sex Comics (PDFs) here (added daily) . Why Shallowing Feels So Good The vaginal entrance contains a dense concentration of nerve endings. For many women, this outer area, along with the clitoral network, is far more sensitive than deeper internal structures. Re...

This is a comparative study in bedroom bullshit and relationship cosplay. Let’s be brutally honest for once: the bedroom has been running on two parallel counterfeit economies for decades. Women have perfected the art of the theatrical climax, moans pitched somewhere between wounded opera diva and dying dolphin, back arching like they’re trying to escape their own skeleton, the classic “Oh god, yes, right there… keep going… almost… almost…” followed by the sudden, Oscar-worthy stillness that signals mission accomplished (for him, mostly). Meanwhile, across the same mattress, men have been quietly minting their own fake currency: Emotional Availability-  the deluxe limited-edition version that comes with soft eye contact, thoughtful “hmms,” and the occasional “I’m really not good at this feelings stuff but I’m trying, babe” delivered in the same tone one uses to apologise for scratching the car. Both performances deserve their own award categories at the Annual Relational Bullshit O...

Before we dive right into it you may want to  Download Sex Guides For MEN in PDF & EPUB here!  OR  Download Sex Guides For WOMEN in PDF & EPUB here! If your boyfriend feels threatened by your wand, this isn’t about the toy. It’s about ego, insecurity, and a misunderstanding of how orgasms actually work. Let’s strip this down to what’s really happening. You use a vibrator because it helps you orgasm. He understands that. But emotionally, he wishes you didn’t “need” it. That tension is common, and it usually stems from one deeply ingrained belief: that a man should be the sole cause of his partner’s orgasm. That belief is flawed. Orgasms Are Not a Solo Performance Many people grow up believing it’s a partner’s “job” to make someone climax. When that doesn’t happen effortlessly, it can feel like failure. But orgasms are complex. They involve the nervous system, arousal patterns, emotional safety, stimulation type, stress levels, and mental focus. The most power...