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Foreplay is all about the psychological stimulation between two people to create sexual arousal. Most people assume that foreplay is only used to get women excited and ready for sex, but foreplay is just as important to men. Without foreplay, men are not at their sexual arousal peak and their orgasm won’t be as strong. If you can get him so ready and excited for sex or pleasure that every tiny hair on his body stands up , then you have done foreplay correctly and to the fullest. There are many different things that you can do to get your man excited for sex. You can either combine these ideas or use them on their own to get your man all hot and heavy for you. The more anticipation you create, the better sex will be - hands down. The more you crave something and the more you want it, the more animalistic you become when you get it. If the anticipation for sex becomes totally out of this world, then when he finally enters you, the sparks will fly and you will be in store for one of the...

Before you can truly please your man and give him satisfaction that he is going to remember for a long time to come, you first of all need to understand his thought process and how it works. Pleasing a man is about more than just physical stimulation. Of course, the focus for men is on physical stimulation, but if you really want to please him to his core and truly make an everlasting impression on him , you need to understand how his mind works. The male brain works in a much different way than the female brain. Rather than being intricate and complex, the male brain is simple yet efficient. Men use pictures to associate an emotion or arousal, rather than words. This is the main reason why there are so many magazines catered to men. Men like to look at things to get arousal, rather than read. Women are more turned on by reading something, such as a romance novel. Women are able to turn these words into something visual in their minds and they then use that to become aroused. Some men ...

In order to truly please a man, we have to start with YOU. You may think that focusing on you has nothing to do with sex, oral sex, fondling, dirty talk, or passionate kissing but it absolutely does. In fact, it is paramount. Your sexual confidence has a lot to do with how you do all of these things to and with your partner. Without sexual confidence, you won’t be able to truly please your man and you will never feel pleasure yourself. You have to work on you before you can work on him . Sexual confidence in one’s self is the number one problem that women have when it comes to sexual activities with their partner. When you are worrying about your body, your hair, that blemish on your face and various other issues going on in your life, your focus is not where it should be and that focus should be on him. He can tell when you are thinking about something else. He can detect when you are distracted. He knows when something is on your mind and he can especially tell when you two are makin...

Well, you definitely don't have/want to tell them that they are horrible in bed. If I were in your position, I would just ask if it's okay if I shared some of the things that really do it for me, then propose that we spend a while in bed, playfully exploring and practicing those things during the weekend/a day off.  Take a playful approach to it. Don't put too much pressure on them to get it right straight away, give them plenty of feedback and guidance, keep the mood light, etc. The are  probably not going to be upset about spending a day in bed exploring your body and learning how to really get you there if they really love you and care about whether or not you are enjoying yourself. On the flip side, you need to show just as much willingness and interest in what they would like you to do for them in bed. Like I said, take a day to do some playful exploration of each other's bodies and communicate to each other what is working and what needs to be worked on, and don...

While there is an encyclopedia of knowledge through each guide on how to perfect your sexual moves to your man, you may be wondering what the best technique is? The number one sex technique is actually an attitude. It’s… Enthusiasm Enthusiasm is by far the most powerful thing you can incorporate into your sex skills AND sex life . Think about it this for a minute… Have you ever been merely going through the motions with a guy, where he seemed almost uninterested and unenthusiastic about getting it on? It’s a real turn off and can make you feel very unsexy. On the other hand, have you ever been with a guy who can’t keep his hands off you , who looks at you like a lion eyeing his prey and when you do get intimate with him, he kisses you with intense passion and makes love to you with his entire being. It’s like he’s possessed and all he can think of is…you. It’s incredibly arousing. He’s acting with complete enthusiasm and focus on you. This is the power of enthusiasm. When you give you...

Something many people don’t consider is the right sex position. When you have a big dick or a a small dick to work with some positions can feel a little uncomfortable and some can dramatically increase your satisfaction levels. This is what works for me: When he has a big dick: Missionary with your hands wrapped around the base of his cock allows you to be in control of when you have had enough, spooning also feels great and allows him to get deep a lot easier. Another position that a lot of size queens love is you on top, leaning forward slightly, it gives you more control and allows you to take length a lot easier. Laying flat on your front also feels good, I like to avoid doggy-style and putting my legs around his shoulders in missionary and this can cause discomfort with a bigger dick. Using lube is a MUST. You will face the wrath of your ancestors if you skip it because you think you will be fine without it and that just isn’t true. I always use lube, no matter what, it mak...

  Avoidance and anticipatory anxiety with sex can occur when there is not a recurring rhythm for sexual intimacy , which can also lead to difficulties communicating when a change is needed.  Rituals or routines for frequency, initiation/declining sex, and participating in non-demand, non-sexual touch throughout the week can reduce the anticipatory anxiety that hinders communication and intimacy.  Some examples of a ritual or routine include a fridge magnet that can be turned upside down when interested in sex or lighting a “sex candle,” which allows your partner to gently accept or decline.  Sex doesn’t necessarily need to be “scheduled,” i.e. every Tuesday and Saturday at 7 pm, but can occur on a routine where intimacy is anticipated and welcomed. In case of there being issues, you then need to use  ARC Statements -  i.e Acknowledge  Report Collaborate ARC Statements can be an incredibly important tool for effective communication. They allow the spea...